Make a Plan
Make sure your officiant will accept personalized vows.
Decide with your fiance whether you are going to write the vows together or not.
Decide if you are going to show them to each other before the ceremony.
Establish a structure that you both stick to.
Pick a length and stick to it.
Writing the Vows
Find inspiration.
Make sure that you have plenty of quiet time to work on your vows.
Keep the words positive and personal.
Stick to the happy memories.
Avoid talking about the bad times.
Express your exact feelings about the person you are about to marry.
Don't be afraid to use words from a song or movie that are special to you and your partner.
Once written, read your vows aloud to make sure the language flows well.
Practice reading it on your own, several times to make sure you are comfortable with it.

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