Vows Writing Checklist

Make a Plan

• Make sure your officiant will accept personalized vows.
• Decide with your fiance whether you are going to write the vows together or not.
• Decide if you are going to show them to each other before the ceremony.
• Establish a structure that you both stick to.
• Pick a length and stick to it.

Writing the Vows

• Find inspiration.
• Make sure that you have plenty of quiet time to work on your vows.
• Keep the words positive and personal.
• Stick to the happy memories.
• Avoid talking about the bad times.
• Express your exact feelings about the person you are about to marry.
• Don't be afraid to use words from a song or movie that are special to you and your partner.
• Once written, read your vows aloud to make sure the language flows well.
• Practice reading it on your own, several times to make sure you are comfortable with it.