- Eight to ten weeks before the baby shower
- Guest list If it is a surprise shower, ask for help from her family and friends to ensure no-one is left out.
- Budgeting Figure out how much funds are available, and allocate carefully.
- Date Pick a day when most people will be able to come – this is usually a weekend, and in fact, after church on Sunday is a traditional time.
- Location The home of a friend or family member, a restaurant or recreation center, or even the church family center are great places to hold a baby shower.
- Four to six weeks before the baby shower
- Theme If you know the gender of the baby, this may be easy – if not, be creative
- Invitations Have invitations made up and sent out with directions to the location included.
- Menu Catered is best! Finger sandwiches and cake are traditional – sort of a ‘high tea’ type of party. Couples’ parties may require more substantial food.
- Registration Now is the time for the mom and dad to register online – create a wish list that updates every time an item is purchased.
- Three weeks before the baby shower
- Flowers Place your order for flowers – simple arrangements of baby breath and carnations or rosebuds are ideal for an elegant party
- Balloons/banners If you are having a more casual bash, go all out with balloons that match your theme and add a banner that guests can sign for a keepsake.
- Seating Reserve extra tables and chairs if needed to ensure everyone is comfortable. Make sure the expectant mom has a comfy place to sit.
- Cake A baby shower cake can be so fun and creative. Get one big enough for everyone to have a piece; half chocolate, half yellow or white is best.
- Two weeks before the baby shower
- Games Decide what games you will play at the party, and get supplies
- Prizes/favors Games should have prizes, and you will want a favor for each guest to take home.
- Dishware/flatware Themed paper products and utensils should be stocked well in advance of the party.
- Caterer You should have nailed down a game plan and menu at this point, and all systems should be go.
- One week before the baby shower
- Guests Check with invitees who haven’t confirmed their attendance.
- Video/photos Make sure someone is designated to capture the event on film.
- Gifts Purchase gifts for the shower, and check the wish list to ensure no major gifts are overlooked.
- The day of the baby shower
- Set up Arrange for deliveries to be made early or even the day before to ease stress.
- Cake Pick up the cake or have it delivered in the morning.
- Flowers These should be delivered by the florist or picked up.
- Gift list Assign someone to keep track of who gave what in order to send out thank-you notes later.
- Cleanup Have large plastic bags placed in corners for easy discarding of wrapping paper and other trash during the event.
Traditionally, baby showers were held for the firstborn child in the family. Today, more and more people hold baby showers for each child coming into the family, no matter how they joined. Having the perfect baby shower takes a lot of love and a little advance planning to give the mom-to-be the best day possible!
Showers are best held around the seventh month of pregnancy, so the mother to be can enjoy it and still move actively without discomfort and getting too tired.
Usually a family member from one side or the other plans and hosts the shower, although in some cases the woman’s friends may step in and take over. Co-workers and employers may also choose to throw a baby shower.
Guests for the shower should include immediate family, close friends and even neighbors. You may decide on a woman only shower, or opt for a couples shower. Men can have fun at a baby shower too!
Themes are fun – especially if some of the gifts are décor oriented: furniture, bedding, wall art and accessories come in myriad designs, and can be used to set the tone for the party. Sports themes for a baby boy are popular, and princess themes for girls.
One thing to remember is to be considerate if a close friend or family member has suffered a loss or had trouble having a child themselves; in cases such as these, contact them personally before invitations are sent and find out if they would be uncomfortable and rather not attend.
Planning ahead for the shower is important. Guests may need to coordinate gifts to avoid duplication. In some cases (particularly for subsequent children) you may choose to hold a shower where all the gifts are diapers or other sensible items, since furniture, bedding and even clothing may be available from a previous child. Baby registries are also an option to avoid any mishaps.